Are you looking for tips about dating sober? If so, you’ve come to the right place! We explore ten tips and red flags to help you navigate the world of sober dating.
Dating sober is not an easy task. Fortunately, some tips and red flags can help guide you. There are a lot of things to consider, including how to stay safe, how to meet potential partners, and how to make sure your relationship is healthy and supportive.
Here are our top 10 tips and ten red flags for dating sober:
10 Tips for Dating Sober
1. Set Clear Boundaries – Before you start dating, it’s important to understand what boundaries are essential for you and your partner. Be sure to communicate these boundaries upfront so everyone is on the same page regarding expectations and respect.
2. Know Your Intentions – Consider why you want to date in the first place. Are you looking for someone who shares your values or just a fun fling? Knowing what kind of relationship you’re looking for can help ensure your expectations are realistic.
3. Be Open-minded – Dating sober doesn’t mean that your partner has to be sober too; however, if they drink or do drugs, be open-minded about their lifestyle choices as long as they don’t conflict with yours. This might be a healthy boundary if you are in early sobriety or very sure that sharing sobriety with a partner is needed.
4. Practice Self-Care – It’s essential to take care of yourself mentally and physically while dating sober, so make sure that your needs come first in any relationship situation—no matter what!
5. Find Sober Activities – To keep things fun while dating sober, try planning activities together, like going out for dinner or seeing a movie without alcohol or drugs involved—this will keep both of you accountable while also giving you something fun to do together!
6. Stay Connected – Keep in touch with friends who also date sober or know about sobriety so that there’s always someone around if things get tough during a date night or argument with your partner. It will be easier knowing there’s always someone around who understands what it’s like living without alcohol/drugs.
7. Respect Each Other’s Choices– When it comes down to it, each person should respect each other’s choices whether they choose not to drink/do drugs or if they do—it shouldn’t be an issue as long as everyone respects each other’s will.
8. Take Time Away from Each Other – It is essential when dating sober; both parties take time away from each other so they can focus on themselves individually without feeling guilty! This time away allows each person in the relationship time off from constantly having their needs met by another person,y which can lead them further into loneliness if not done correctly.
9. Talk About Expectations– Having an open line of communication is critical for any relationship, including one where both parties are not drinking or doing drugs; talking about expectations helps both understand each other better, leading to a stronger connection.
10. Have Fun– Lastly, don’t forget why we date in the first place—to have fun! Don’t let being abstinent stop you from enjoying yourself and having meaningful experiences with another person—it just means learning how to enjoy each other without substances involved.
10 Red Flags When Dating Sober
1) One-Sided Relationship – If one person in the relationship is always dictating terms or making all decisions (including social activities), this could indicate an imbalance of power within the relationship, which can be unhealthy over time.
2) Lack Of Communication – Open communication is vital in any healthy relationship, but especially when both parties are abstinent; if one person isn’t comfortable voicing their concerns/needs, this could be a red flag.
3) Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms – If either person is using unhealthy coping mechanisms such as self-harm, drug/alcohol use, etc., then this might not be a good fit for someone looking for sobriety.
4) Dishonesty – Whether big lies or small lies,s if dishonesty becomes apparent within a relationship,p then this could mean trouble down the road; honesty should always be present for two people to trust one another.
5) Pressure To Change – If either party feels pressure from their partner (or vice versa) to change who they are, this is worth noting; nobody should feel forced into doing something they don’t want just because their partner wants them to.
6) Controlling Behaviour – Abusive behavior, such as controlling actions or manipulation, should never be tolerated within any relationship; if anything like this arises, it’s best to leave and seek professional help immediately. Are they criticizing family? Adios.
7) Unsupportive Attitude – If either party isn’t supportive towards their partner’s goals/dreams, ms then again, this could indicate an imbalance within the partnership which would need addressing right away before anything else can move forward between them
8 ) Unrealistic Expectations – Setting unrealistic expectations on either side will only lead down an unhealthy road; neither person should expect more than what they can realistically give/receive within their relationship
9). Blaming Each Other For Issues – Blaming others instead of taking personal responsibility is never okay; holding each other accountable yet still respecting boundaries is critical here
10). Lack Of Compromise – For relationships (especially ones where two people are abstaining from substances ) to work, a compromise must occur; this means being flexible and standing up for oneself when necessary too.
We hope these tips and red flags help you navigate the world of sober dating. Whether you’re from New York, San Diego, or Pocatello, remember, the most important thing is to stay true to yourself and find someone who respects and loves you for who you are. And yes, you can find sober activities in any of these cities (we’ve been to all of them, and our home is San Diego, and we recommend its sober community). Good luck!
By Perry P.